Friends and loved one ask “how you are doing”, they ask it in the most sincere way they can and they ask it truly wanting to know. But, your love ones and friends also know the answer, they are living it with you, maybe not to the same depth, but they see it day in and day out. They acknowledge your illness daily, they hear you cough, they see you gasp, they watch as you try and catch a breath, they trip over your oxygen tubing, they see the effort you have to put forth to walk down the driveway without oxygen support, and they love you anyway.
Because they are being polite and sincere I answer in the same manner. All of my close friends know when I go into the hospital, when I come home and a lot of them know the schedule I have for seeing my doctors, after a hospital stay. So it would be rude and disrespectful if I were not somewhat honest. Very rarely do I go into all the gory details, I cover the high or low points and move on. Some want to know more, so they ask, and I give more complete answers.
I am so glad they ask, it really helps sometimes to share, and I know it’s not falling on deaf ears. And everytime they ask I quietly thank them.