A Sisters’ Kinda Weekend….

30 Jul

My wife Steph had company this past weekend.  3 of her best friends in the world for the last 36 years came to Tampa for the weekend.  This wasn’t the 1st visit nor will it be the last visit.  Over the years Steph has gone north to visit with these friends time and again.

I have known these ladies only slightly less than Steph, but I don’t know them as well as Steph and I could never hope to. Steph could not have gone out and picked 3 finer people to be her best friends.  While they all have their little horns, their hearts are made of pure gold, and the friendship and love they share for each other is deeper than the Grand Canyon.

The Sisters   

As you look you see Bonnie on the far left, Jean, Linda, and of course Steph.  Bonnie is the reserved shy one, Jean is the court Jester and instigator of mucho trouble, Linda is the Matriarch, and Steph (as I choose my words wisely) is the somewhat quiet calming influence and organizer.  But for all I know Steph could be hell on wheels when she travels north to be with her friends.

I know I was privileged to be around them.  My duties were limited to cooking breakfast and being the sober driver.  Both jobs I took quite seriously, and had a lot of interaction with the ladies in that limited capacity LOL.  Each day I excused myself to go take a nap, but I am sure being the fly on the wall would have been fun.  But this isn’t about me, it’s about them.  The friendship they have built over the years and the effort they have gone thru to make sure they didn’t grow apart.  

They met through their membership in BPW (Business and Professional Woman) almost 36 years ago. After they left BPW they continue their friendship via a monthly (or so) breakfast club, I think at one time the breakfast club was up to six, but the core was these four lovely ladies.  I went a few times, Allison has gone several times, and I am sure there have been others that cycle thru the breakfast club. They met at a variety of local restaurants in the Northern Virginia area.

After Steph and I moved to Florida, she began getting calls from the Club on random Saturday mornings. Smiling over the years many a Saturday morning Steph would get a call from a hysterically insane giggling Jean just to say hi to Steph.  I only heard Steph’s side of these conversations, but I know she spoke to everyone in attendance, and I know from time to time she was laughing so hard she almost pee’d her pants.  Being on the sidelines and watching this, is and has been hilarious.

The way they share warmth and bond, you would never know that they see each other only occasionally.  To an outsider they appear to be quite normal (which they aren’t), and most would think that the four of them together is a common event, it isn’t.  It would be hard to fathom that most of Steph’s communications with them comes via Facebook or AOL, except for Bonnie who is about 2 steps behind the technology curve.  They are so natural together.  They can and do finish each other’s sentences, they laugh at the same parts of movies, and I am sure they share their deepest secrets to each other, knowing that secret will be safe forever.

This was a weekend for relaxing and that is exactly what the ladies did.  Breakfast was served around 9 or so. I cooked, and I know I busted some diet plans.  Smiling, and they really enjoyed breakfast.  After breakfast it was into the pool.  The insanity was contagious.  As they floated in the pool wine was served or bourbon was served on vodka was consumed.  The ladies enjoyed themselves.  Light snacks were all afternoon long, it was help yourself to whatever you could find that you wanted.  The evenings were spent out to dinner and home for a movie or TV show or a DVD.  More wine was consumed, as well as, vodka and bourbon.  LMAO this paragraph would imply that the 4 ladies drank, and to be honest they did LOL. But they knew they were in a safe haven, and nobody got stupid, nobody got drunk. They consumed just enough to keep them all giggling.  Which is far better than most of the “all guy” golf trips I have been on.

To be honest I toned them out, it was their weekend, I intentionally tried not to listen to conversations I thought to be private. I was the bump on the log.  I rarely could add anything of substance to their conversations, because it was about them, their memories, their stories, and their friendship.  But bless their hearts they did try to engage me, and I am honored that they trusted me enough that there were not totally reserved around me.

On Tuesday morning Steph and I took them back to the airport.  With a great deal of hugs, kisses and promises that I know will be kept they headed home.  They took with them great memories of the weekend, and left many a smile on Steph and my face.  Steph is blessed to have 3 such friends, friends that will look after her, her entire life, friends who she will watch out and care for, for their lives.

Folks as always if you have any questions or comments please feel free to ask, but be aware this is one time I can’t promise to answer them all.  Take care, Bill


Posted by on July 30, 2014 in Humor, Ramblings


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23 responses to “A Sisters’ Kinda Weekend….

  1. Chatter Master

    July 30, 2014 at 6:33 pm

    I can see why people become your friends, stay your friends, and look forward to being with you. ❤

    • FlaHam

      July 30, 2014 at 11:13 pm

      Colleen, Smiling and laughing, they wanted to be with my wife. I was there to prepare food and drive them places. Both jobs I did quite well. Enough so they all complained that I busted their diets LOL. But it was a great weekend. Thank you, Bill

  2. The Persecution of Mildred Dunlap

    July 30, 2014 at 6:47 pm

    What a great post. Nothing like good friends but then you and your lovely wife having friends is no surprise. ❤

    • FlaHam

      July 30, 2014 at 11:12 pm

      Paulette, My wife and her friends had a lovely time, and they were secure the entire weekend. Take care, Bill

  3. Wanda

    July 30, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    It sounds like a wonderful girls weekend, especially when they had you to escort them about so they could continue their fun.

    • FlaHam

      July 30, 2014 at 11:11 pm

      Wanda, Thank you, all I did was wear the hat LOL, and a little cooking, it was a ladies weekend. I did keep them safe, that was my real job. Take care Sweetie, Bill

  4. kanzensakura

    July 31, 2014 at 12:38 am

    Not every group of women on a girls’ weekend out has a combination chauffer and Jewish Patriarch to cart them about and wait on them. I treasure my friends the same way – we have been friends since 1968, 1972, 1990 respectively. We support each other, bitch at each other, hug, love, laugh, cry, and get into trouble with each other. I know it made you happy having such happiness around you. Hugs.

    • FlaHam

      July 31, 2014 at 10:12 am

      Kanzen, LMBO imagining me as a Jewish Patriarch. I do chauffeur and cook so much better. Your comment “We support each other, bitch at each other, hug, love, laugh, cry, and get into trouble with each other.” was indeed exactly what Steph and her friends did all weekend and as I have said it was a joy to watch. I am so so glad you have 3 such friends, and I would volunteer to be your breakfast cook and chauffeur anytime, as long as I also got to be the fly on the wall listening to your carryings on. LOL LOL Please take care and be safe. Bill

      • kanzensakura

        July 31, 2014 at 11:22 am

        Men always say they’d like to be a fly on the wall but I think they might be a bit surprised. We ladies can be rather…truthful and snarky about things. When we buddies get together, if at my house, my husband basely flees the scene and warns us he is bailing nobody out of jail. 🙂
        Take care of yourself!

        • FlaHam

          July 31, 2014 at 12:24 pm

          Kanzen, I truly suspect your right, I can truly say I really don’t want to know if I am talked about, one way or the other. I am liking that word “snarky” but I am afraid how it would be applied. Smiling, unlike your husband I would be more than happy to bail any of them out, if for no other reason than to say, none of you ever had to bail me out LOL LOL. Take care, Be safe, Bill

  5. sheridegrom - From the literary and legislative trenches.

    July 31, 2014 at 1:02 am

    Bill, Oh what a wonderful time for Steph and her special friends. For those of us that have moved hither and yon with our careers understand the energy Steph and her friends have put into maintaing their friendships.

    • FlaHam

      July 31, 2014 at 10:05 am

      Sheri, As we all know, we have to work at friendships, my wife and her friends have worked very hard to maintain their friendship and it shows. It was great for me to just be among them as they had their good time. Take care, Bill

      • sheridegrom - From the literary and legislative trenches.

        July 31, 2014 at 6:38 pm

        Bill – Indeed I do know. My best friend, Catherine and I have been best of friends for 35 years. When Fort Ord closed and my next move was DC, we both thought our worlds were ending. That was before endless hours of free long distance, before cell phones, before a dozen or more electronic devises in every home was available for communicating. Yet, somehow, no matter where I lived in the world, we were never out of touch for more than a week at a time. When I was state side, we often talked daily. I knew Catherine before I knew Tom. I’d never trusted a woman before, had never hired a woman or had a female friend other than my best friend from first grade and we hadn’t kept up that relationship. I know exactly what you mean about finishing each others sentences and all that.
        One of the best gifts Tom ever gave me was 3 years ago when Tom gave Catherine an airline ticket to come to our home for as long as she thought she could stay. It had been 13 years since we’d been together in person but as soon as she stepped off the plane, it was as though we’d never been apart.
        It was while Catherine was here that I wrote my first two blogs. Like you, I had been talking about doing a blog for a long time but had never even tried to set one up. Catherine asked me how I wanted the format to look and she and Tom did the logistical stuff and then said, “Go and write.” It’s the blog that’s kept me going when the long dark days have been upon me.
        You are so right. Great friends don’t just happen. They require a lot of work on both sides but it’s so worth it. Sheri

        • FlaHam

          August 1, 2014 at 7:29 am

          Sheri, Friendships are truly hard to create, and even harder to maintain. We have both learned this over the years. But we also know that the soe of the very best are those that surprised us at the beginning with that individual we never thought it would go anywhere. Then the act of maintaining a friendship is clearly a 2 way street, both have got to want it. Clearly you and Catherine do, just as clearly as Steph and her pals. Those are the special ones, the ones that will and do last lifetimes. You are quite fortunate to have her, and Tom is smart enough to understand without jealously. Have a beautiful weekend. take care, Bill xoxo

  6. huntmode

    August 1, 2014 at 6:40 pm

    Such a warm, loving post, Bill. Thanks for letting us be the fly on the wall!

    • FlaHam

      August 2, 2014 at 8:17 am

      Hunt, Smiling better you than I, for the fly on the wall. I suspect you would be much more attuned to whatever the conversation was. I am glad the ladies had a good time, they surely deserved it. Take care, Bill

  7. barbarafranken

    August 3, 2014 at 10:00 am

    What wonderful friends you and your wife have… so special like extended family. Thanks for sharing your beautiful picture and story… Barbara

    • FlaHam

      August 3, 2014 at 10:23 am

      Barbara, They without a doubt the 4 closest people I know, and compliment each other very very well. It was a joy for me to be the cook and driver. Oh I did serve some beverages as well. But I also gave them enough room to not inhibit conversations. Thanks for taking the time to comment. Please be safe, Bill

  8. benzeknees

    August 13, 2014 at 2:37 am

    It’s nice to know your wife has such great friends, they can be such a comfort when you are living with someone who can’t always keep up.

    • FlaHam

      August 13, 2014 at 11:58 am

      Benze, These are indeed her best 3 buddies, and they will be there for her as she will for them for as long as they all live. For me it’s just fun to watch. Take care, Bill


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